Update

[Rhonda]

Hello Everyone:

Just a quick update ... My mother has taken a turn for the worse since her heart attack in November
The chemo weakend her heart and the coughing from the lung cancer became much more intense thus the heart attack.

She was in pallative care ward last week and wanted out but is terribly terribly weak.
In the meeting with the discharge planners and the CCAS
they did send home a hospital bed to make her more comfortable and we are looking into a a placement at hospice
if one becomes available.....

Anyway basically 24/7 my dad was there

we were there alot of the time my sis and I but not 24/7

well now my dad has had a stroke so they are both at home

my sister went on a vacation to california and came back sick

Anyway sorry I have not been around but with all the demands on my time i just have not been home much spending nights there right now has become necessary so please forgive me for not being around

I try to check in when I can and hope you are all doing well

Mel is you have internet access please contact me.

Be well everyone
Keeping you all in my be well prayers
~Rhonda

[diva]

Rhonda, How are you??? What the heck is going on I never see any updates on this site except from you and a few from those I do not Know.....Is everything ok?? I miss you gals!!!!!!! Please contact me!!!!!!! I will leave a messege in the private section with my personal e-mail address, ok. What is up with mel? Is she ok, or have you not heard from her either? PLEASE I REPEAT CONTACT ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- The Diva - Nikki -

[diva]

Also sorry to hear about you mom.....
Nikki

[Rhonda]

Hey Nikki:

No I have not heard from Mel

She had some problems and went somewhere and all her id got stolen when she was mugged and then she was in a new program in Amsterdam and something went really wrong there......then she left that program and moved in with Donna she got heself a pug named Jadyn Rose and all of a sudden boom no Mel on line anywhere ......I was busy with my daughter and grnadaughter who had broken up with her husband as she had a serious back injury and then surgery(By the way she is hanging in there and healing up some) and never heard from Mel or Donna.

Any of the phone numbers I had from her did not answer for me

Donna did send a hallmark card with a new address but then when I sent to that never heard back.

I had sent Christmas cards to the last postal address but at this time I have not heard from Mel. One friend said all that they could say was that she was okay so do nto know what to think.

My father has had a stroke which means I am spending even more time there. and less and less time on line

As a matter of fact am hardly home and when I am i have to clean this place

Try to keep this site going for Melissa because she put so much time into making it.....hopefully someone will let us know what is what with her

Samm her friend from England has been busy in a new relatioinship and Jim is from Australia and has had his hands full between his surgery and his dear wife Brenda who is suffering with cancer

Please feel free to post....there are alot of new members and if you hear from Mel you will have to tell her she has over 100 members here and that I sure do miss her.

Hugs Nikki
~Rhonda

[aka]

Hello Rhonda, my heart goes out to you hun.
You sure have a mammoth load on your plate at the moment my friend. I have no words to express how sad I am about your current situation, but you will remain in my thoughts and I will think positive for you.

I’ve just been so very busy lately and I had a mega downer on the weekend, but I am starting to surface again now.

Brenda was doing fine, then had a reaction to the cancer meds and came out in all these hives. It took a few days to work out the cause, but once she stopping taking the med, the hives started to lessen. She went to the oncologist on Monday and starts on a new med in a week. So fingers crossed, that this one will not have any adverse effects on her.
Sorry I haven’t been doing more posting, but life has not be overly kind to me of late.
I will continue to drop in when I can.


Hi Diva, nice to meet you. Hope to get to know you one of these days.

[Rhonda]

Hi Jim:

I am glad you posted about Brenda... I have wondered how your wife is doing?

My mom was lucky she never had hives from the cancer meds but she did have a really bad reaction to the chemo and ended up in hospital first time ever she had been overnight since she had us kids the yongest being 48 and then they lost her in the system and ended up keeping her extra days.



How are you doing Jim?

Please post whenever it is good for you. I know what it is like to have the demands on your time and all about the downers

My father suffered a stroke 2 days after we got mom home so my sister is back and she has recruited a friend to fill in now and again. Hate to take advantage of people but sometimes as you must well know your body gives out and you have to let someone else help. dad of course was worried as to whether Marie would be able to handle it and she is a doll and handled everything just fine.

So at least now it is not just me... thats all they had for awhile and my husband Paul has been most helpful but said no more weekends at the parents as that is our time... i really think they need to respect his wishes as he has been good about this taking dad to hospital while i stayed with mom etc

Am taking my dad for more tests doppler and others. He had/has a brain bleed (ct scan a few days later showed that)

am hoping it isn't an active one as if it is apparently the only solution is surgery and I am not sure his heart could take that at this point. anyway I am not a doctor and should not speculate as i have no idea what is going on til after the tests

My religious friends say let God guide you I am trying but my head is spinning more often than not and one good thing is

Good news
April is doing some better and her new pup ( Skittles)she got just before she went in for her back surgery has been a blessing in her life.

I am so glad to see you posted see you have added several articles.......have to get to them all soon it's hard as the folks do not have internet so i get in here when I can and Jim thank you for always welcoming the new members.


Nikki more good news
Nikki have heard from Mel's friend Donna....she has been in treatment I sent my phone number for both of them and hope to hear from Melissa when she is allowed to phone.

Donna seems to think that may be soon. So sent my schedule to her so hopefully we will connect soon.

Anyway as always Jim I keep you and Brenda in my be well prayers and hope and pray life starts to treat you both more kindly.

Nikki hang strong and keep in touch
Will let Mel know you were asking after her....hope to catch you on line sometime.

Take care
~Rhonda

[Rhonda]

]My mom passed away March 9th at 3:55 P.m
she is out of pain and we were there

we still have things to do after the fact and my father is taking it very hard......and keeping a close eye on him

sorry i have not been around but thse has been in Hospice and my sis and I and friend have been staying with Mom and trying to keep an eye ... the hubby has been sick with a rotten cold on top of which we had a terrible snowstorm 2 feet of snow

[aka]

Hi Rhonda,
it saddens me to hear your news.

I have no great words of wisdom to offer you. At times like these I don't think there are any suitable words, for each person can only accept and grieve in a manner suitable to them.
The loss of a loved one is a very personal time in their life

My heart goes out to you and I feel for you, but alas I can do no more.

Sorry I haven't been around much, but we have had our own share of grief, with the loss of a dear neighbour.

Brenda is doing a lot better since the doc changed her medication. I've just been my usual up and down self and are just come out of a bout of mega depression.

Take care dear friend,. you are in my thoughts.

Hugs. Jim.

[Rhonda]

Thanks for your kind words Jim and yes there is nothing anyone can say or do . It is personal and we need to find our own path through this grieving period.

I feel that Mom is in a better place no longer suffering the ravages of the disease that seemed to progress rapidly daily at the end. The doctor at Hospice Niagara kept her medicated for the pain but the last few hours of her life she still had pain and even though she had oxygen she still could not breathe
Things that worked the day before no longer gave her any relief.

God bless them at the Hospice because my sis and I and adear friend took turns spending nights and days with her and in the process because of other residents we had some laughs as some were in confused states and well God bless those people all the nurses, psw and volunteers and May God be with the families of those that are still there, and help them through. And they did not mind us being there 24 hours a day for her.

I miss her already and my dad is taking things hard but God willing we will get through it all.

I have weak moments but have been grieving my mom as I knew here for a long long time knowing the day would come when her body failed her but you are never really prepapred no matter how much you think so.

Please tell Brenda I continue to pray for her and you as well and glad the med change has helped her.

I too am saddend by the loss of your neighbour,,,, it is hard to lose dear ones.

Please take care of yourself and as always my very best to you and Brenda.
~Rhonda